Javed Akhtar Calls Marriage an Outdated and Futile Tradition

Mumbai: Renowned Indian poet and writer Javed Akhtar has expressed his views on marriage, calling it an “outdated and futile tradition.” In a recent interview, Akhtar discussed his marriage to actress Shabana Azmi, stating that the foundation of any relationship is mutual respect, and that marriage itself is an old tradition that holds little significance.
Akhtar emphasized that he and Shabana are more than just husband and wife—they are “good friends.” He shared that their marriage in 1984 took place during a challenging time, as his first marriage to Honey Irani had not yet been dissolved.
Reflecting on the concept of marriage, Akhtar likened it to a stone that has been rolling down mountains for centuries, collecting moss, debris, and even filth along the way. “Marriage is like a stone that gathers all sorts of things as it rolls down the mountain,” he said.
He further elaborated that the terms “wife” and “husband” hold different meanings for him. Akhtar believes that a successful relationship requires mutual respect, and that both partners need to invest time in understanding each other’s individuality. “If two people don’t respect each other, how can they stay happy together?” he said, highlighting the need for personal space and understanding within a marriage.
Akhtar also stressed that every married person must understand that their partner has their own identity and aspirations. “It’s important to realize that the person you’re with is not your servant,” he added, noting that understanding an independent woman—who has her own career, ambitions, and opinions—is never easy but is essential for a healthy relationship.
He concluded by saying that without respect, love is a “deception,” and that true love must always be built on mutual understanding and respect.